Husband shows no affection

[MamaJubba]

Hello,
My husband and I have been married for almost 20yeats. He has never been the most affectionate but for the last two years he shows no affection to the children or I. He works hard and is always tired. I can’t remember the last time we were intimate. The whole relationship is extremely frustrating and I yearn to be close. He is not interested even if I initiate and I am starting to become really tired. He is a great husband in all other ways . Tried to have a conversation but he just clans up. Not sure what to do. Advice would be appreciated.

It sounds like he works too hard and needs to make more time for himself and his family, either by improving his working conditions or changing jobs.

Stress and overworking are real big libido killers.

What are you terming ‘intimacy’ and ‘affection’? Those words mean different things to different people. What do they mean to you? Do they mean the same to your DH?

Any sort of physical contact really or just time spent together. He clearly works too hard. I know this can lead to all sorts of issues in relationships. He can’t change his careers unfortunately