Please tell me that I am being unreasonable

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Been seeing a man for 6 months. We see each other a couple of times a week of we can.
I have 2 DC who are 16 and 20, he has 2 who are 9 and 12. He has his kids every other weekend as well as a couple of times in the week.
When he has kid kids he doesn't text much and turns off WhatsApp notifications as his kids sometimes have his phone.
He's always really affectionate when we are together and when he doesn't have his kids he's in contact very regularly.
I'm worried as I've not heard from him today at all.......he was last on WhatsApp at 8.53, but not since.

I know he's the sort who gets really engrossed in things and he and his kids are really in to board games and strategy card games etc but I'm feeling really sad that he's not thought of me at all today.......

I think you know that you are being a bit unreasonable. You obviously like him a lot - maybe time to take it to the next level and meet the kids? I think it's telling (in a good way) that he is such an involved dad.

He has his kids with him and they’re probably doing something fun, they’re still quite young and he’s giving them his full attention. He sounds like a great dad. He’ll be in touch later. Cut him some slack.

You’re being unreasonable, OP. Like yours, my DCs are now mid/late teens and generally need so much less attention even than 9-12 yos which his are. He only has them EOW - during the week isn’t the same because of school/work etc. He’s busier than you right at this moment. You just need to get busy with some stuff of your own. I’m sure you and he will reconnect shortly.

You are being very needy. Why does he need to be thinking of you today? It sounds like he has good boundaries. He prioritises his kids and isn't stuck to his phone.

Sorry but you are not just being unreasonable but a bit ridiculous. When I was dating my husband and he had his kids I wouldn't expect much communication at all. Let the man do his dad thing.

I'm feeling really sad that he's not thought of me at all today.......

How do you know he hasn't thought about you at all? You sound very needy and dramatic. The man is busy, FGS.

Thank you all for your replies........that is exactly what I should be thinking!

He does prioritise his kids - which is actually a really good quality in him - I am being stupidly needy and logically I know this!

Needy perhaps, but i get it. I have kids same age as your DP, as does my bf. We do communicate regularly even when we both have our kids. He'll send me pics of their days out. Have you met them yet?

@Oopsiedaisyy no I've not met them yet. They don't know their dad has a gf. They've struggled with their parents breaking up so he doesn't want to rush things

I think that there's no need to call anybody needy, or to minimise anybody's needs. If he needs to be with his kids, and you need to hear from him, then, in this instance, he's not meeting your needs. If it happens regularly, you might want to talk to him about how you feel, or reconsider your relationship. If it's a one off, then it's a one off.

You're effectively asking us to minimise your feelings for you. Why? Why aren't you wanting to respect your feelings?

It's unusual as he's usually in contact every day

I heard from him twice yesterday and not at all so far today

But then I know he takes being with his kids seriously.

I heard from him a few times on Saturday when he was out with his friend and all their kids

He is busy, and I understand that