Opinions on how much new bf/gf share with their friendship group

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I’m in a new relationship of around 6 months with my new girlfriend (I’m also a woman).
from the start it was obvious she was very open with her friendship group about sharing details of eachothers sex lives.they are all gay women in their mid-late 30s. I asked that she doesn’t share the intimate details of our sex life and she agreed.
she was out with her friends last night and said they were playing a drinking game and she got asked to describe the 3 craziest women she’s slept with and in what way they were crazy. She told me this as if it was funny.am I being unreasonable to feel that’s a bit disrespectful firstly to me as her girlfriend sitting at home and secondly to her exes? It makes me think that if I became an ex then any detail is fair game to share.
i feel we have massively different boundaries on this and even though we have talked about it before her reasoning is “it’s a game, you have to answer”
would appreciate some perspective on this.

I can’t say I have ever discussed details of my sex life with any friendship group and no friends have ever discussed theirs with me.
I always thought Sex And The City was a really odd programme because I’ve never known anyone discuss their sex life in such a way. What goes on in the bedroom is (or should be) between the couple.
I’d find it really odd that friends would want to know such details tbh and dressing it up as a game doesn’t make it any better.

I’d hate to think I was being discussed in such a way so YANBU.

They sound really immature. I've never had discussions about sex with friends, and am confident my friends would think I'd gone mad if I raised it!

I’d be devastated if dp talked about our sex life to his friends - especially if I had told him it would make me feel uncomfortable. Out of my friends I don’t think we ever talk about our sex lives other than the odd joke about being too tired to do it very often or menopauses affecting things but these are more self deprecating than insulting our partners.

Different friendship groups have different boundaries.

With my girlfriends we don't really talk about sex, apart from I'm the only one not in a committed relationship so any guy I've slept with is up for discussion if there's something funny to discuss, but it's lighthearted and we don't spend much time on it.
I wouldn't want make ex's discussing me/my performance/my body...but unfortunately I think they do if you are a casual thing rather than a proper girlfriend or wife.

These people are in their mid 30’s!?
That’s shocking!

I’ve never had friends who were this immature.

Are you sure you want to date someone like this?
I’m just saying as an mid 30’s myself and I would be so bored and wondering what I was doing with someone like this…

Eh, I've always been open with friends and family about my sex life and general dating life too

You just have different boundaries and it doesn't make hers wrong. I'd definitely consider whether this is the relationship for you though

As id definitely not be able to stay with someone who was so uptight about stuff like this, as I'm not going to not talk to friends and family about dick size any time soon

That's very immature and would put me off that person massively

But posting on MN for the whole world to read, that's ok??

@Haffiana I imagine its a bit different posting on an anonymous forum (should anyone be inclined to do so) to having your DP sit opposite a friend at a dinner party who now knows the intimate details of your sex life.

I am in agreement with this PP ^. I think you are being uptight. Good friends do share these things and it is perfectly normal.

This! 👆🏼

describe the 3 craziest women she’s slept with and in what way they were crazy.

Is this asking specifically about sex, or just about crazy exes?

"One lady liked to collect roadkill. She would bleach the bones then put them on display in the sitting room."

I don't see a problem with that.

But "my current girl likes to dress up as a bowling ball during sex" is not appropriate.

I'm not into games like this and i asked to participate I'd decline.

But I do have a group of friends where we discuss a lot about sex and dating. This doesn't extend to all friends though.