Absolutely fuming

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Not really after advice but needing to vent.
I'm away on a work trip and DH home with two DC (10/13)
He's been out all day in our local and has brought DC 13 and friends home for a sleepover and I just found out from DC that he has left them and gone out again.
They're fine but I'm livid about it - what if something happens and they can't reach him ? And he'll be drunk in charge of them including two kids that are not ours
If I found out my Dc were left home alone when under another parents supervision I would be seriously pissed off.
Have a super early flight tomorrow but now feel I can't go to sleep until I know he's back home.
I know for absolutely certain if the roles were reversed he would have a real go at me for it as well so it's the hypocrisy of it because I know when I call him on it he'll just dismiss it (cos he's not that far away or whatever)
I'm kind of questioning if I'm overreacting but don't think I really am tbh. Yes they'll most probably be totally fine but that's not really the point
They don't know where he is or when he'll be back and he's too far for them to walk too if they had too in an emergency
It just seems so totally fucked up and prioritizing having a good time over the safety of the kids

I think he's tasted the new found freedom their ages have given him and gone too bloody far! Mine are 15 and 11, the 15 year old is perfectly capable of looking after the 11 year old when we go out.
I happly go out for a meal and a few drinks and leave the two of them at home however my husband always wants* *to stay out that bit later than I am comfortable with!! His excuse is they will be fine (probably but why risk it?)
If I was going out when the younger one's friends where staying over, which does sometimes happen as they often organise these things on the day I would be making the other parents aware their child was being looked after by my eldest (so far no one has had a problem with this)
My point is (finally!!) Him going out for an hour or two shouldn't be a problem but the way he has gone about it is!!!
I absolutely wouldn't be brushing this under the carpet, your husband has been an irresponsible knob head and I would be expecting a lot of grief from the parents of the children that had a sleepover.

Glad to see you are going to address it and good luck going forward.
From reading between the lines the other children's parents may be part of the same social circle. Definitely not healthy if so.

I think if a parent decides that their own 13 year old s old enough to be left alone, that is ok (although I admit in this case your DH maybe did not risk assess it properly, but I am making the general point). But what I would be really furious about is making that decision for another parent, i.e. the sleepover guests. I really think that is unforgivable.

you are right to be angry so irresponsible! I’d be livid if I though my DC was left at a friends house all evening without a parent. And then for the parent to return so late! Trouble is kids will tell their parents…. Awful for you when you are away. Men so selfish!