Am I the only one who doesn’t want daily texts when they start dating someone?

[Silvercurtains]

I’m a busy person, working, single parent of young children. I want to date but every guy I meet expects daily texts. I’ve been single and independent for a while so I’m wondering if this is the normal way of things. My ex made my life hell for two years when I ended things so I’m also very wary of clingy men with no lives of their own. I don’t like feeling obliged to give someone a daily update on what I’ve been doing. Am I over thinking this? I also sometimes worry I hold every at arm’s length because I was hurt so badly before.

Agree. I'd think you weren't interested too or not enough to be that bothered.

I'm an avid texter, I enjoy it, it can be much funnier than vocal conversations too. I guess everyone is different, but I had a guy lined up to date who felt like you do, and I cancelled the date. As I have to stay home of an evening due to kids, I actively search for someone who is 'good' on text.
Horses for courses though, but I think you might be a while looking because not texting at least once a day would be very unusual I think.

Been going out with my partner for 7 years. We have exchanged at least one text every single day. We quite like that.

I’m not an avid texter but I do like daily contact even before a first date be it texts or phone calls. I feel like if we aren’t wanting to do that with each other there’s a lack of interest. If I really like someone I want to hear from them every day and i would hope they would like the same.

I also think that some texting is normal/required? to maintain a level of interest (if at the very early stages of dating), or to maintain a bond//level of intimacy in between dates within an established relationship.

Before I had a child, I was an avid texter and that dynamic worked with my ex partner. Now, with a small child in tow, that's no longer possible but I do try to maintain a connection by texting after my child has gone to bed. I think it shows a level of interest to the other person.

I'd cancel the date tbh. You've not even met this guy and he's already pissing you off. It won't get better!

I don't think you're ready for a relationship. A nightly text from someone you are looking to possibly start a relationship with isn't excessive.

I agree, this is too much at this stage. It’s not like OP has started dating him yet.

I don’t see how it can be viewed as “too much”. A daily hi how are you, following on with a funny or sweet text exchange is my bare minimum really.

When I was dating if I didn’t have a contact at least once a day I’d assume either he wasn’t interested, or was busy messaging other women.

If you haven’t even met and feel like there’s nothing to talk about then it doesn’t bode well for the date.

We’re all different though, it’s finding someone that works in the same way you do. I like texting, do it a lot with all my close friends and now my boyfriend. We’ve been together 2 years and I need that contact to stay feeling connected.