Meeting bfs parents for 1st time

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I've been with my bf about 5 months and it's going really well so far

He's invited me for lunch with his parents tomorrow and I'm happy about it as it's a good sign that he also thinks things are going well

When I'm with him I'm able to be myself and so he knows the chatty bubbly me (that's the real me, ie. who I am when I'm not nervous). But when I'm nervous I get a bit socially awkward and tend to go quiet. I'm worried it will come across as rude

I mentioned this to him and he's reassure me that they'll like me and also said if it's too soon we can do it another time so he is understanding enough.

Im just really wanting it to go well. It's been 15 years since I met a bf's parents (I was in a LTR marriage until 4 years ago).

Anyone got any tips for conversation starters? Any other tips? I think it could help with my nerves if I had some ideas of what to chat about ready. It's the awkward silences that are causing me the most anxiety!

Also for lunch - jeans, heels & a nice top?

Any tips??

Hi,

First off I am sure you will be fine.

Personally I wouldn't wear heels, unless it is somewhere posh. I don't often wear heels anymore so wouldn't feel comfortable in them. As you will feel nervous it is better to be dressed comfortably.

Will it just be the 4 of you? Has your BF shared much about his parents? If you know anything about their jobs/travel/ hobbies, try to ask open questions.

I don't say much around my BFs mum or either of his sisters, yet his BIL, 2 of his neices and some of his mates, I have no issue talking to. Just depends how comfortable I am. i always try to be engaged though. So nodding in the right place, asking questions about what they are talking about etc. That way I don't have to talk too much.

Also I would keep any PDA with bf to a minimum, and offer to put towards the meal. First meal out with bf family I didn't, felt awkward offering as there was 8 of them all, and also bf pays for most of our meals out anyway, (because I do all the food shopping and cooking when we are together, which is 7/14 plus his lunches for work another few times)

Good luck!

Honestly OP just be yourself either they'll like you or they won't. But if you make their son happy that is usually all that matters.

Don't veer into topics that might be sensitive Brexit, Meaghan, religion, you know any of the spark topics. Try to always say something kind, about anyone or anything.

Failing that drink wine slowly and watch the clock

Your BF will be your big supporter. I'm sure he'll be there for moral support.
They will expect yo u to be nervous. You clearly like him to be so worried.
Just be yourself. I hope it goes well for you .

Listen, respond, and dont call everyone sweetie (which BILs new Gf did last week. Everyone. )