I want to know if anyone else has had this experience. I was with my DH for 9 years before we got married - we got together when we were 18. I know his family extremely well and vice versa - we’ve all been on holidays together, I’ve spent Christmasses with them, considered his siblings some of my closest friends. My DMIL was someone who I could always rely on and who helped me through some difficult personal times.
They were all super happy for us when we got engaged and it was lovely at first. Then really small stuff started to change, and at first I just really felt like it was me. But DMIL started being kind of mean to my husband as well, and acting like he was her least favourite child in quite an obvious way, which came completely out of the blue. Once shortly before the wedding we were spending an evening with her and she was so nasty and belligerent to me about me not changing my name when we got married I had to excuse myself to go off and cry!
Anyway, we’ve been married for two years now and this has just continued. There’s just something slightly nasty underlying some of our interactions now. My friend who I’ve discussed this with says it’s because she doesn’t like that we’re our own family unit - her other two children are both still single. But it just feels horrible. I’m sorry I can’t give any concrete examples but it’s just like when I was at school and I get these occasional flashes that she is trying to make me upset. I don’t rise to it - although my husband sometimes does - and just don’t engage but it makes me so sad as I feel like I lost family when we got married rather than gained it. I just feel confused, you know? And I don’t understand why she also has to be horrid to her son!
Wondering if anyone else felt a shift like this when they got married?