I would like some advice on deciding to continue a friendship please

[Gratitudepeacenharmony]

Hi , I would like to ask you to give you an opinion on this incident please . I don’t know whether I m overthinking it .One of my close friends called me one day and told me she is so upset so she couldn’t cook anything . She had some difficult time at work and I felt sorry for her . I made some food and delivered to her and she said she is lucky to have me . However few days later, I went for a party at her place . During the party , she told me she will return my food container boxes . Actually i didn’t ask for the boxes to be returned on that day /I didn’t expect it. Then she went and opened her fridge and took the food out (by looking at the container ,3/4 of the food I gave was left in the box) . Then she told me she is going to throw it away as she didn’t manage to finish it . I find this behaviour rude . It would have been ok if she had done it without me knowing about it . However I find it upsetting as she has done it infront of me. What do you think about this ? Am I being too sensitive ?

I'd say you're being too over sensitive.

The party was a few days later so assuming the food would be spoilt anyway.

I assume if she was too upset to cook she probably didn't feel like eating

As long as she was grateful for your effort and appreciated which it sounds as though she was then i don't see the issue

Good grief, yes you are being over sensitive. Very nice of you to make some food but to be offended it wasn't all eaten??? It's not like she told you she didn't like it, she gave appropriate thanks. As you said, it was a few days later you went round so by that time it was unlikely to still be safe to eat. Apart from anything else, if she was too upset to cook she was probably too upset to actually eat a lot at the time!

She didn’t ask you to cook for her. Maybe she was too upset to eat. I wouldn’t have appreciated the ‘you’re lucky to have me’ comment.

I think the friend was saying she was lucky to have OP ie showing her appreciation

There were a few incidents in the past where she has done similar things . Tahts why I asked

It was the other person that said she was lucky to have OP.

Oh apologies, I misread. I do think you’re being over sensitive though. She was probably too upset to eat much.

You either like her or you don't. If you're going to get huffy every time you think she's not appreciated you enough then you're not a particularly good friend either.

I do think you are being a bit over sensitive. Also, I think your expectation that she should have emptied the containers when you weren’t there and without telling you that she hadn’t eaten it all is a bit unreasonable and a tiny bit precious.

I don’t think she should have to hide it or lie to you to protect your feelings. Friends should be able to relax and be themselves. They shouldn’t have to worry about their friends being easily offended.

Maybe you would hide that you didn’t eat all the food a friend made you and maybe you wouldn’t give back containers at a party at your place. But she isn’t you. And that’s fine. Lots of people aren’t you and would do things that are different from how you would do things.

Thank you all for your replies . Yes I understand I was being oversensitive . I would be more understanding in the future . Thank you all . Bye

Thank you all for your replies . Yes I understand I was being oversensitive . I would be more understanding in the future . Thank you all .

Thank you all for your replies . Yes I understand I was being oversensitive . I would be more understanding in the future . Thank you all .