He's bored

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So My partner has said he is bored in the evenings. I said "so you're bored of me?" he responded with no and some excuse.

To then 2 minutes later went on a full on rant about how I do nothing. i just sit with the dog or watch youtube. Yes, i do that sometimes. Other times we go out walking, go to the pub to watch football, we play games online. Lots of other stuff. I'm not sure where this is coming from but it's really upset me.

He has children from another relationship and it makes me think he would rather be back with them now. It just hurts a lot. I struggle a lot with anxiety and I just want somebody to talk to or blurt this out at. ATM i just feel really alone and not sure what to do or if my feeling are acceptable? I just don't know.

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Sorry you're feeling down about it.
But he didn't say he was bored of you, until you squeezed it out of him.

Do you have any hobbies? I would be bored of doing the things you described in your OP.

I said "so you're bored of me?" he responded with no and some excuse.

That would have annoyed me if I told my DH I was bored and he assumed it was a dig at him. I get bored, he gets bored, I'm sure most people get bored. Just find something to fill the time. Life's not always exciting. Read a book, tidy up, watch a film.

There are lots of things you can do separately or together it just takes a bit of effort to get off your rear and do it. Unfortunately people can get in a rut and that initial effort seems insurmountable.

We do have hobbies together but they are mainly physical like running and cycling. ATM I am unable to do these as I am pregnant and really struggling with my breathing when trying to run.

I understand life isn't always exciting and full on. We are supposed to be getting married soon and going on our honeymoon. I don't see an issue with just chilling one or two nights a week. Maybe I should suggest he goes and does some stuff without me as I'm the one kinda slowing him down. Thanks for the tip.

Have you been together long op?

3.5 years

You're pregnant? This puts a bit of a different complexion on things. If he's bored now, how is he going to cope when you're both elbows deep in shitty nappies and so exhausted that you're just staring at the TV semi-comatose?

You won't have time to be bored once baby comes along.

Just chilling is fine, we've been together a lot longer than 3.5 years and spend a lot more than 1 or 2 evenings chilling.

so i took some initiative and booked for us to go bowling tonight. Instead of feeling sorry for myself I thought it and see if this helps. we wont be going bowling on the spur of a moment when the bay comes so suppose we should make the most of it.

I think some of the replies here gave me a bit of a kick up the ass, so thanks for that.

my spelling is awful on that last post, but you get the point haha

What does he want you to do? What is does he want to do? Get him to suggest something. I bet he cant think of anything.

Excellent, enjoy your evening.

You are not a clown. Its not your job to keep another adult entertained. Tell him to get some hobbies.

Enjoy your evening. Hope you both have a good time x