Is this doomed....

[Hari223]

I recently met a lovely man at a friend's housewarming. He's a friend of my best mate from uni and is very recently single having had a pretty horrendous breakup with a woman who cheated on him. They were together a number of years (don't know how long exactly). They've been apart for 2 months, though I believe their relationship was breaking down for quite a few months before that.

We hooked up and then went home together, and ended up spending the morning together - lovely chats, lots of chemistry, amazing sex. We've met up a couple of times since - more of the same. I really like him and the feeling seems mutual, but am really worried about being a rebound. He isn't so worried about this and wants to explore things slowly and see where it goes, but is that a good idea? Is no contact better?

I think it’s a good sign that he wants to explore things slowly. What are your thoughts on exactly what a rebound is?

if his previous relationship was on the rocks it’s not like he has be broken up with out the blue

when I started dating again after an awful relationship I would say that I wanted to take things slowly with no pressure but I didn’t feel like I was rebounding. Rebounding for me would be me trying to fill a void

what’s he like in general? Does he have hobbies? Go out with friends etc?

Possibly the only thing I would say is that a lot of people remain single for a while after a relationship so they can heal if they need to and have me time to find themselves again

I've just been caught out by one of those. He maintained he was ready, but clearly wasn't and is just after playing the field - which I suggested he should be doing at the start, but he denyed it. Turns out I was totally on the money.
However, everyone is different and while it doesn't help to project, I'd say proceed with caution. I missed some signs, should of taken more notice of them, rather than giving benefit of the doubt.
He has said he wants to explore things slowly, however, what is actually happening is that you are going at breakneck speed - there could be a red flag in that. Don't take what he says as fact, look at what he does. If you find more effort is coming from you, sit back and see if he puts the effort in.
What does he even mean by taking things more slowly? It would appear to him, that he means emotional connection, as the physical has already happened, so it could mean to him that any amount of sex is fine as long as he is not emotionally connected (this means he's unavailable emotionally at present). Whereas to you, it's likely the opposit and you will be feeling more connected because of the sex.
Switch it to your terms, work out what emotionally connected means to you and avoid getting connected in that way for now. That may actually mean pulling it back to friendship status if that's possible now the jeanie is out of the bottle.
There is potential here for you to get very hurt, you are being wise to consider the risks, as they are real.

@Maybeone24 yes, he has lots of friends and hobbies. He's outgoing and popular and has lots of support from friends too.