Is My Mental Health Steering Me Wrong?

[OhOphelia]

Been with BF for almost three years - we each have 2DCs from our previous relationships (him divorced, me abusive ex)
On the surface, I’d say we have a good relationship - spend time together both with and without DCs, go on holiday together, etc.
My struggle starts when I start to think more deeply about the relationship. BF doesn’t like to think about the future or make plans, whereas I struggle with living day to day without thought. I think this is partly due to my ongoing mental health struggle - I’ve had bouts of anxiety and depression since my twenties and am currently going through a low, contemplative period.
I don’t know if it’s just because of this that I’m feeling unsettled and somewhat unsatisfied in my relationship at the moment - do I just let things lie for the time being and see how they go? How long do I ‘bumble along’ for?

He doesn't make you feel secure. Ditch him.

yep. you are not suited. end sooner rather than later.

It's got bollocks to do with mental health. And everything to do with the fact that you want commitment, and a plan and an understanding of what comes next and he's happy just to float along. Which basically means that, at best, you're not compatible.

So if knowing what comes next is important t you and he doesn't want to commit, that's fine. Btu you may need to end the relationship because you are feeling insecure and unhappy.