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Repeatedly attracting the same kind of (dysfunctional) relationship

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millymog11 · 13/09/2022 15:00

I once read somewhere that if you have been in a relationship which ended because the person cheated on you, in your next relationship you have a higher likihood of attracting or be attracted to someone who will cheat on you (i.e. history repeating itself). It is the converse of the idea that if you have been a cheater in a past relationship you are more likely than the average person to go on to cheat again on your partner in any future relationships.

So I have had two long term serious relationships both of which ended with my partner/husband cheating on me (i.e. I have form for being cheated on).

Do you think there is truth in the above idea and if you do, how do you think you can change that tendancy (i.e. how can you do things differently so you do not get cheated on in your next relationship/spot signs of someone who will cheat very early on). FAOD, my husband cheated on me and left me for someone else (who he is now married to) but when we first got together he did not himself have a history of cheating on his previous partners so far as I am aware).

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Watchkeys · 13/09/2022 16:46

Did you have any niggling feelings before you found out? Anything at all? Even something you couldn't put your finger on?

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