Wrongly accused of coercive control

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DH family (started by MIL) are accusing me of this.

Im not sure what to do. Ignore ? If they actually reported their concerns could I be in trouble and investigated? I’ve done nothing wrong. MIL just can’t accept she’s pushed her son away with her unpleasantness so is blaming me and saying I’m keeping him from them 🤦‍♀️

what do I do ?

Get some brochures for emigrating to Australia and leave them hanging around your house.

Coercive control is very ambiguous IMO, open to silly allegations.

I fully expect any authorities to ignore vexatious allegations. They don't have the time to waste, and I suspect the burden of proof would have to be very high and involve someone's immediate physical safety to get any mileage.

Stop engaging with her full stop. She doesn't like you, stop attending her events.

Also I'd say his family = his turn to drink, not necessary to take it strictly in turns. But anyway, cut them out of your life.

Don’t be daft

Your PILS have nothing to do with you, just ignore and go low or no contact

Seriously stop worrying, some people were born just to piss others off.
Does your MIL not have anything better to fill her time with.
She sounds like she's a bit jealous of your relationship with her DS....either that or she's just plain nasty.
No one in authority is going to listen to her chatting shite.

Has he changed so much since he's been with you?

oh dear. Your dh needs to put his foot down and tell his mother to stop immediately. If she carries on then you, as a family unit, need to stop seeing her. But the hard reality is dh needs to stop it.

And stop panicking. The police won't take you away.

Exactly this I just wouldn't have anything to do with her!

I agree.

Your DH should not be allowing his mother to treat you this way. He should be drawing boundaries with her and making it very clear her behaviour is unacceptable.

That’s the biggest problem here. To some extent using you as cover for his distancing himself or not complying with his family’s demands is probably useful to him. He may not even realise he’s doing that. But he clearly is. Otherwise he’d stand up and challenge this stuff much more effectively. It’ll be hard because he grew up with this toxic shit and probably doesn’t see it for what it is.

He needs to make it clear that your family finances are none of their business. To make it clear that he’s choosing to drive and not sit drinking in the bosom of the matriarchal cult. That he will not stand for them treating his wife this way.

You're DH has not been assertive enough in this matter. Talking may not be enough, there needs to be consequences.
Also, for your own peace of mind, you could stop engaging with her, just don't see her, don't speak to her and tell your DH never to pass on whatever next accusation she has. I am assuming here that she has said all these things first hand to you, but if any of it has come via your DH, he needs to stop assisting her by passing it on.