Hey everyone,
I'm just needing a little vent and pick me up.
My daughter turns 2 on Wednesday (I have a 8yr old boy also). Their father left us two weeks before Christmas and then has subjected us to the year from hell. (Arrests, social services, lack of engagement, letting kids down etc). This is a life I never envisaged for us.
For reasons including the above and many more, I emailed my ex and told him I would be stopping contact as he is emotionally abusing my 8yr old. My 8 yr old has been in therapy and SS advised me to stop contact and let my ex make moves for access via court. I was happy for written contact and FaceTime but given the time elapsed for my baby, he is now a stranger.
This hasn't been difficult to do as my ex totally disengaged from the children and apart from 2 hours on my sons birthday in July, hasn't enquired after them since June. He hasn't asked to see them or asked after their well being. My son is having a very difficult time processing everything that has gone on and is currently receiving therapy to help.
I'm feeling really sad today, my daughter turns 2 on Wednesday and I'm remembering her first birthday. All of us together, a unit. All of our family in the garden having a party. All happy, laughter, smiles and love.
My heart is breaking for my kids, their dad has cut them off and it f**king hurts like hell. How can you switch off from two beautiful, funny, loving children. Just turn your back like they didn't exist. HOW? I love my kids from the very depths of my soul and I can't comprehend what has happened.
He is now in an (abusive) relationship so I can't let the children be exposed to that. I could invite him to see the children, but then I don't know if he will be consistent. He hasn't been since he left. I desperately want to make my son happy, but in doing so I could bring more heartache.
I just want to know, this won't scar them for life, that they will be happy and stable