This hurts, why?

[Nursemammato3]

I had posted on here in regards to my relationship with a younger guy.
I think we were on possible different paths. He started bothering with an old school friend who is single and not a great influence. Only because I couldn't commit more of my time. He would have came over every night if I'd offered. He lived at home, and probably couldn't afford his own place for many years.
I have written down all the reasons why I ended it. I am questioning if it is me now. Nobody is perfect!
I have come home from work. I can't stop crying. I keep thinking I have made a mistake. I hated being single and dating.
I feel like I have lost a friend too.
It really does physically hurt!

I remember your post OP. The guy is a fucking waste of space so WELL DONE, you've absolutely done the right thing.

You're hurting right now because you've let go of the dream that things with him could be good. They were never going to be, but that hope was like a warm feeling keeping you going, and now it's gone.

Now you take some time to yourself to mourn what could have been, and use this relationship to think about what you do and don't want in future relationships. For example, next time you know you need someone who has his own place and isn't deeply in debt. But one good thing about your ex was his [sense of humour / interest in the environment / shared love of Eastenders] and it would be nice if future partners also had that.

Chin up, this too shall pass, and you will meet someone much more worthy of your time and energy 💐