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90 day rule

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Aprilshow · 12/09/2022 11:51

I have been advised the 90 day rule before sex is a good principle to stick to. I know this varies between people and relationships. When does the 90 days start. Is it the first date or when you both agree not to see other people? Has anyone else found waiting 90 days helped? We have been dating for 6 weeks and official for 1 week. My man has said he will wait for however long it takes and that he wants me only. Surely you can do other sexual things during this period?

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EarthSight · 14/09/2022 20:08

Aprilshow · 14/09/2022 14:01

Thank you for all of your replies. Some good points that a player can wait 90 days then leave. If I am honest I don't think I can wait 90 days 😂 I think it will happen soon as it is mutual and he is a very caring man.

I agree. I think they would definitely wait this long if they didn't think they had many options (that's no shade on you obviously, but possibly a bit a shade on him)!

Just keep in mind that not all men must have been lying to you from the start if they have sex with you and then suddenly go cold. It could be that he simply doesn't think that you're going to be sexually compatible. He may not want to say that because you may then ask him why which might put him in a difficult position.

Ineedhelp1981 · 14/09/2022 20:17

HopeIsNotAStrategy · 12/09/2022 14:35

I thought this was about travel within the EU...

I am utterly cracking up at this! Love it 🤣🤣

Teenprobs · 14/09/2022 20:22

EvenMoreFuriousVexation · 12/09/2022 13:44

Who have you "been advised" by OP?

Like fuck would I invest 3 months into a bloke only to find out he's shit in bed! And if some bloke told me he wanted to wait 3 months until sex I'd tell him he was welcome to be celibate if he wanted but there's no chance I would be!

This!!!

I once waited for 2 months. (I'd had a procedure after a smear and I had to wait 6 weeks for no sex) it was awful. I really tried, he was lovely but I just couldn't.

Then with my current partner we waited due to lockdown, circumstances etc. He was perfect I Convinced myself he was going to have a micropenis. He didn't. Thank god. 😊

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