Bisexual male or not.

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So I’ve been married now to my wife for 4 years and together for 13 years, we have three beautiful kids and are happy together.
since been a young teen I’ve always questioned my sexuality in a odd way. I don’t find men romantically attractive but I remember as a teen once in while I’d masturbate to a memory of a lads bum in tight clothing. Now skip forward several years and my sex life with my wife is great but I do watch porn also on the side unfortunately it’s an addiction I’ve had since been around 13. The porn I watch some times is straight MF, but alot now is trans and bisexual porn (MMF) I also occasionally watch gay porn. My question is have I watched porn that long that normal porn doesn’t do it so I have to go further down the rabbit hole or and í bisexual. Again I do not find men romantic attractive it’s the whole sexual side and all the porn with guys in tend to be femboys eg femme boys

Whatever you do - be honest with your wife before you go down that rabbit hole.

Why are you asking a forum of predominately women? How the f are we supposed to know??

Why does a label matter?
Unless you are planning to explore sex with men outside your marriage - it doesn’t really matter whether you are bi.
But since you asked - yes. It sounds like y is are. Straight men don’t get desensitised with regular porn.

unfortunately it’s an addiction I’ve had since been around 13

Deal with that. Get some professional help.

How the fuck do we know what your sexuality is? Work if our for yourself. Poor wife. If this isn’t another trolly mctrollface. It’s that special time of day afterall. 😏🤮

I think you have to let your wife know about your addiction. You should have let her know before you got married. I personally would not choose to continue a relationship with someone who used porn (my personal boundaries). It sounds as if the porn you use has changed over time - is it because you are used to certain things, so you need different things to stimulate you?

In any case, your wife deserves to know and have a choice. Certainly cheating physically could harm your wife by passing on stds; but porn use can also cross peoples boundaries and harm them emotionally (I would consider it cheating).

Yawn

Do you have any close male buddies? No emotional attachments to them? Honestly if you are querying your sexuality this is not the forum to be on! They have very low boundaries/high self esteem and recommend women leave their relationships at the drop of a hat. You have a happy marriage so I would focus on keeping that working. There are forums out there which will be more open to your questions though.

Hi OP, its important to note that generally speaking your romantic attraction does not always have to coincide with your sexual attraction.

I am only romantically intersted in the opposite sex (heteroromantic) but I have sexual attraction towards members of my own sex (bisexual).

Hope that helps you untangle your feelings a bit.

Why do you think it is an addiction? Does it get in the way of your sex life with your wife? If not does it really matter? Only you know whether you are attracted to males or not, no one else can answer that. And if you are planning on staying faithful to your wife, again, does it really matter?

You're married. If you're thinking in detail about who you might like to be unfaithful with, talk to your wife, not a forum.

None of us know anything about your sexuality.

I wouldn't be overly concerned by this OP. Be honest with yourself - admit you sometimes find feminine guys sexually attractive.

Gentle reminder - there's absolutely nothing wrong with that, and i wouldn't overly worry about labelling your feelings too much. You like what you like, and it doesn't have to change things between you and your wife.