i don’t really know who to talk to, my friends are all happily married and I just don’t think will understand me. Last year I had suspicions that my husband was messaging someone from work. Anyway to cut a long story short, he was, I confronted him, read the messages. He said it was just texting, nothing more. The message that really got to me was a photo of her in the bath (just her legs). I was devastated. He said our marriage hadn’t been great and he liked the attention and admitted he shouldn’t have done it.
he is right, our marriage wasn’t great, we had both taken on more at work, I’d gone full time and I was pulling away. Im not sure what came first, me pulling away when he tried to be romantic or me finding the messages.
we wanted it to work, he deleted her number etc and told her they couldn’t message anymore. I’ve kept an eye on his phone and he seems to be true to his word. He is trying but I don’t know if I am.
the thing is, I just can’t forget it. It’s in my mind a lot. We rarely have sex and I don’t really want to be intimate. We have two children and I don’t want them to go through our separation. We do get on well, we laugh and joke but it feels like friends.
if you’ve read this then thank you, I don’t even know what I am expecting you to say. Feel quite lost. X