What do I do?

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DH (64) is broken...last 3 years unable to get an erection at all, and he's not really bothered as no desire either. I'm 53 and at the start was going go thru menopause & frankly couldn't care if I never saw a cock again, let alone ride one! Last few months tho it's like I'm on heat (post meno surge!). Help!! I love DH but can't accept this is my life now... he can't take viagra as on other medication & i'm a bit resentful as this is down to him not managing (self inflicted) diabetes type2 to a certain extent. Don't want to leave, don't even want an affair, but would I be unreasonable to proposition a friend?? Just so fucking horny!!!

It's tricky, there's physical incapability plus lack of urge. There's plenty he could do for you other than PIV - and toys for that if it's a big part of what you like, so lack of ability is no excuse. However, lack of libido altogether, that's something else, you can't force a person into intimacy if they just don't want to.
It's your choice to ride out the surge or not, you've already lost libido previously and he stuck by you. Meantime, lack of libido is not a get-out for lack of affection, so if you don't hug and kiss regularly anymore, that's something else, and not really more than friends.

You'd be unreasonable to open up the relationship without his knowledge. So only proposition friend if he's agreed you can, that would be fair.