First Date time

[Vickimf]

Hi

If you we’re meeting someone for the first time for a drink how long would you think was a reasonable time to stay?

Depends on whether you're enjoying it? I'd usually give it a minimum of 1hr then decide if we both wanted to stay longer.

I usually have "plans" for later that day/night so I've got my get out ready but something I can call if I'm having a good time

I plan for max 2 hrs. If it goes well you can always meet again, surely?
I usually know fairly quickly if it's a definite "no" from me so no point in wasting time. If that's the case I usually make my excuses after 1hr -1,5hrs and leave.
I always say though beforehand that I prefer quick meeting rather than longer date.

An hour. I'd meet for coffee and see if it was worth pursuing. I'd never waste an evening or a dinner with someone I may not want to see again.

I’d box off a couple of hours with an exit plan if I wasn’t attracted to them, and flexibility to hang out for longer if we hit it off.

On the dating threads they usually advise a Date Zero before the first date. This is usually just a quick coffee or a walk just so that you can get a first impression, make sure they are who they say they are, make sure they actually turn up etc before committing to an actual date that you block off a couple of hours or an evening for.

You usually know pretty quickly if it’s a no. So why waste an hour or two on it.

Of course if you get on well there’s nothing to stop you extending it, but I’d go in with low expectations for a quick first meeting and see how you go.

My last date was 10 hours and were still together 7 years on. Probably up to a couple of hours would be OK. I've had a couple that it was so obvious we would never hit it off that were over within an hour.

maybe a couple of hours, Don’t like the idea of a “date zero” personally 😬

Depends on if you’re having a good time. My first date with DH (off an app) lasted about six hours. I’ve also called time on dud dates at the 20 minute mark.

@Marineboy67 ah you beat me mine was 8 hours. First 4 with another couple then we headed off for dinner. Next date was 13 hours. That was 4 years ago. Been married 4 months 😁😁

Depends on how well the date is going, up to an hour max if it's bad, two hours if you don't mind their company, 3 hours if it going particularly well.

half an hour to, I don’t know, the whole night? It depends on whether or not you like each other. I’m one of those who does date zeroes (although I never knew it had a name until now!)