Saying “ do you want me to just leave?”

[Happywhenitrains7]

DH In front of my 8 year old son.Son. This is intolerable isn’t it?

It depends. Sounds like that was part of a wider conversation that you shouldn’t have been having in front of the child.

It is, I hope you said yes.

Was it said in total isolation to anything else?

Presumably there was a build up to this, none of which should be happening in front of an 8 year old.

Not automatically intolerable. What did you say to
him right before that, and what was the context of the conversation.

Can't see why you wouldn't realise context is key here unless there's a massive bwckstory and history to this. Sounds like you're looking for justification in a split but if you're that unhappy, that is your justification.

Context?

“It depends. Sounds like that was part of a wider conversation that you shouldn’t have been having in front of the child.”

This. As other PPs have said - context is everything. The way you’ve posted suggests that you want to make everything your DH’s fault.

Background?

Anyone offering an opinion without context is just making their own up

Need more context.

I don't think there's any context where that comment would be ok.

He should've changed the subject, or said you could talk about it later.

*would be ok in front of a child.