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DD navigating first break up...

10 replies

Bobbylives · 10/09/2022 22:17

Hi all.

DD 16 recently broke up with her boyfriend of 6 months. He got very controlling and possessive so she ended it as they broke up from school. He was devastated and promised to change. They were still 'friends' until 2 weeks ago and she was considering getting back with him. He has suddenly turned into a complete whilst staying with his friends (he's international and so came back to the UK a couple of weeks before school started). Since being back at school he's been really toxic, his friends have been intimidating her, it's like he's a completely different person. I've spoken to the school who are helping mediate a peaceful resolution. She's heartbroken and doesn't know who the real him is. I don't know how best to help her apart from taking her to ignore him and not feed his ego! Any advice very welcome!

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sleepymum50 · 10/09/2022 22:45

I sat on the bed while she had a cry and we referred to him as bum face from then on.

Its horrid at the time. just keep feeding her ego and tell her how fab she is. Remind her that teenage boys are more immature than girls and that they are in thrall to their hormones, plus they feel the need to act big with their mates. It makes for a toxic combination.

best of luck and a big hug for her.

Catlover1970 · 10/09/2022 23:06

I’d keep her as far away from him as possible

Bobbylives · 11/09/2022 13:51

Catlover1970 · 10/09/2022 23:06

I’d keep her as far away from him as possible

I wish I could but they're at boarding school together in the same year and classes 😕

I thought he was a really nice boy.

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Midsomerwine · 11/09/2022 14:55

Bobbylives · 11/09/2022 13:51

I wish I could but they're at boarding school together in the same year and classes 😕

I thought he was a really nice boy.

Take her out of boarding school and place her in a main stream school. Can’t believe boarding schools still exist its crazy.

Bobbylives · 12/09/2022 00:31

Midsomerwine · 11/09/2022 14:55

Take her out of boarding school and place her in a main stream school. Can’t believe boarding schools still exist its crazy.

Not exactly helpful input. She loves her school and she's in the middle of her gcses...

I was hoping for more help on dealing with boys who have had their pride / egos dented?

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Midsomerwine · 12/09/2022 12:40

Bobbylives · 12/09/2022 00:31

Not exactly helpful input. She loves her school and she's in the middle of her gcses...

I was hoping for more help on dealing with boys who have had their pride / egos dented?

You did ask for advice.

Willbe2under2 · 12/09/2022 13:16

Midsomerwine · 12/09/2022 12:40

You did ask for advice.

Yes. Advice. Not bitchy pile on from someone with nothing better to do.

OP, I'm afraid I have no advice but just listen to her and make sure the school are on it. Intimidating her because she dumped him is bullying, so if I were you I'd look at it from that angle rather than how DD should deal with a boy who's had his ego dented. Best of luck

Midsomerwine · 12/09/2022 13:34

Willbe2under2 · 12/09/2022 13:16

Yes. Advice. Not bitchy pile on from someone with nothing better to do.

OP, I'm afraid I have no advice but just listen to her and make sure the school are on it. Intimidating her because she dumped him is bullying, so if I were you I'd look at it from that angle rather than how DD should deal with a boy who's had his ego dented. Best of luck

Bitchy pile on speak for yourself. Your the one who seems to want to cause trouble on here.

Willbe2under2 · 12/09/2022 13:50

Midsomerwine · 12/09/2022 13:34

Bitchy pile on speak for yourself. Your the one who seems to want to cause trouble on here.

Umm, ok love. Have a lovely day.

Midsomerwine · 12/09/2022 16:16

Willbe2under2 · 12/09/2022 13:50

Umm, ok love. Have a lovely day.

You to 🤣

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