Getting over a relationship when you have a baby… success stories? I feel a failure

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Things are so shit. We weren’t married but lived together. I’ve moved back to my place and haven’t seen him in 2 weeks as he’s sorting a new place. We have an 18 month old.

Im just really sad and heartbroken. I think I knew deep down that things weren’t right but I wanted it to work a lot. His family don’t have a relationship with me or dc - they have a few issues with socialising.

i see a future of loneliness and fear and everyday I wake up feeling sick. I’ve got good friends but obviously nothing replaces this feeling right now.

I have been there with an 18 month old, I felt the same as you do. It was really hard for a while but it got much better. My daughter is 8 now and we are really happy.

it far easier being on your own than having a child in a bad relationship. You will get time to yourself so make an effort to see friends etc and you will be ok.

Was it his decision to break up? Sadly I think it sounds like you will have to get use to him not seeing the child for long periods of time seems to be going that way, I’m sure he could have made some time to take him out in the last 2 weeks?

Yes you are probably right, my ex wasn’t great but he wanted to have her straight away and has had her twice a week and sometimes more since the day we split.

It is really sad when the father just decides to be absent. In the beginning I did wish he’d just disappear from my life but I got time to be alone and heal from the situation. It wasn’t easy since you have to see the person that hurt you and makes it really hard to get over it. I’m glad she has a relationship with her dad but also glad it’s limited as he’s very selfish person.

it must feel desperately lonely when they don’t make an effort to see your child.

I left dc1s dad when dc was 9 months old. It was hard seeing other couples shopping for Christmas presents etc together to start with. I've went on to have 3 failed relationships since including 1 that gave me dc2, his dad and i split up not long after his 1st birthday hes now nearing 11.
I was happily single for a few years before i rekindled a relationship with my childhood sweetheart a few months ago and am the happiest ive been in a relationship for a long while.