I moved back from years overseas to find most of not all of my friends had got married and moved miles away and the ones left were different people to how I had remembered, we had nothing in common.
I moved to a place with no family and no friends. I had to start again. The first thing I did was get a job, and even though I had nothing in common I still went out for drinks with them, and it one night out when I met a great friend! Don’t be picky go out with everyone, see everyone as s friend and your network will grow.
This great friend introduced me to lots of new friends and suddenly I had more friends. I was never to proud to say hey what are you doing Friday night to anyone. Have some confidence.
I made some more friends in my Pilates group. I basically put my ego to one side and asked them to meet for coffee. Remembered what was important to them and was very caring.
One friend then introduced me to my now dh.
You have to be prepared for people to say no occasionally and that’s okay. Not everyone has space for new friends it’s not personal.
Op you need to invite your sister for dinner, buy her a small bunch of flowers and ask her how she actually is. If she is having a tough time, support her. Reconcile your differences. She sounds important to you.
Stop saying or giving the impression you like your own company, you could be giving people the wrong impression.