How do I deal with this?

[Disappointed88]

I am really upset and disappointed right now. My partner has gone out for drinks and now I don't know where he is, he sent a bunch of messages clearly drunk and struggling to get home (from centre of town to suburbs). I'm really worried and can't sleep - I know (hope) he will probably be fine - but I also don't know how to approach this with him tomorrow. I expect he will be mortified and very apologetic (this has never happened before) but I feel so let down. Am I overreacting to be so upset? We don't have kids by the way, obviously that would be different.

You live together and for how long? How old are you both? I suppose it depends on the generally understood rules between you in your relationship.

for me my drunken husband struggling to get home at 3am won’t bother me much, and we are in central london. We don’t ever suggest any curfews to each other. If I text him at some late time, I would fully expect him to reply tho.

this is just our normal tho. We are older and run very independent lives, which we both love. ±

Thanks for the reply, that made me feel a little better. We are early 30s and have been living together for 6 years, together for 8.
I think the reason I'm struggling to know if I'm overreacting is because I am worried something bad will happen and he won't come home. I know this is unlikely and I have this anxiety because of other losses I've had in the past, but he also would know I'm feeling this way.

He won't be thinking about your feelings if he's that drunk.

Can you not just call him, ask where he is and go and get him? Or get him a taxi?