For those who ended a long term relationship

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How difficult was it? Did you wish you'd done it sooner?

Just looking to hear of for other's experiences.

Fear of change vs fear of wasting time is huge!

Fear of change coupled with sunken cost fallacy really can hold back a decision.
I wish I would of left my ex 10 years before I actually did, but when I did leave him.......
THE RELIEF! It was palpable, I felt like a feather.
To wake up every morning full of joy instead of dread.
Never feeling scared in my home again (he never actually hit me, always stopped short of it, but he knew what he was doing).
In the early days of leaving him I was deliriously happy, I've levelled off some what now.😂
I still had the odd moment of "did I do the right thing?" , but then I would see him and he would do or say something and it could just completely reaffirm my decision.
Life is precious and if you are really struggling to make a decision, just ask yourself- do I want to live like this for the rest of my life?

i was devastated even though my relationship was emotionally abusive with lots of cheating. 26 years felt like a life time. Once i made the decision I didn’t look back. It was a sense of relief. I have so many regrets about not leaving sooner. I absolutely wasted my best years trying flog a dead horse. You can only work on a relationship where both parties feel the same and are prepared to put in the work to save it. If that’s what you both want.

It's really tough going but I knew it wasn't right and everyone would tell me. The year following was one of the worst ever. I am still mentally recovering from everything that happened. When I see him now I can't believe what once was. I'm now happy in my own home and I feel at peace.

I ended a 5 year relationship and I should have ended it at around 4 years. But I dragged it out as it was my first relationship and he was all I'd ever known. The attraction just fizzled out but I kept clinging on because being with him was "normal".

I knew I just couldn't live like that anymore, just coasting along with someone who wasn't making me happy. Despite that, breaking up with him was difficult. As soon as it was done (initiated by me), I phoned my friend and cried. I had no idea what my life, or my future, looked like without him.

But I still maintain that it was one of the best things I did. I've grown so much since then and I'm a lot more proactive these days and would never stay with someone for longer than I should.

Wasting time with someone is a million times worse than adjusting to change.