Hello so iv been with my husband for 6 years he had little contact with his children due to his ex partner who stopped it, he then dated me, I have 2 children from previous relationship we have been married for 4 years and had a baby together.
Last year his daughter (14) got intouch with him again wanting contact with him and his son (16) he would go see them for weekends and everything was great. A few months later His ex phones up asking to sort the (14) daughter who attitude problems having sex smoking stealing drinking wearing promiscuous clothing I could go on wanted us to have her living with us so she stayed with us for a few months and my partner treats her like a friend rather than a daughter there was no Punishments nothing she got away with murder and my (12) daughter seen how her behaviour was like he favoured is daughter (14)yet had my daughter all the time his kids couldn't see him. She lived with us just under a year nothing but trouble with her me and my husband had arguments after arguments about her he was so protective of her nout she done was wrong i have an 8 year old son and she was really nasty to him and nothing got said to her about how she was been i wouod tell him to tell her as she woupdnt listen to me and things were not progressing anyway his daughter has decided to go back to live with her mother since then my partner been really mean to my daughter (12) he's now saying he don't want to be a pushover anymore I said to him why wasn't you this bad with you daughter he ignored me this is still on going process and my head is literally done in i don't know what to do who to blame leave the relationship just very emotional physical and mentality drained he won't go to no counselling I'm stuck in a rut.