Bought a house in January and now want to split up…

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Bought a house in January with my bf of 7 years. Complete renovation project which hasn’t gone how we hoped, been so much more expensive than anticipated with lots of bad luck along the way. Wasn’t until end of June where I thought I can’t do this anymore.

We’re now in Sept and the house is a complete wreck, not 1 room is finished or done (no skirtings, flooring, doors, lights). I’m at the point it’s affecting my mental health so badly I want to cut my losses get it valued in the state it’s in and sell it.

I think in the process I’ve also fallen out of love with him. He is like a best friend and not a boyfriend anymore. Has anyone been in a similar situation? I’ve thought about selling my car to free up cash and try finish it, I’ve thought about personal loans but I feel so stuck. Just looking to vent and any advice

Could you take some time away from the house and the renovation work for a few days? Preferably together so you can go and reconnect. Do something fun and remember why you're together.

The best advice I received after having my firstborn was not to make any major decisions about my relationship in the first year of becoming new parents, unless there was abuse involved. Without this advice I would have probably filed for divorce 6 weeks after baby was born.

I think the same advice applies to something as stressful as a home renovation. It hasn’t been a year yet. Get counselling, try prioritise fixing the relationship, go on holiday with or without him to give yourself a breather. But no decisions about splitting up until you have got through the worst of the renovations.

Have you spoken to him OP? Does he feel the same?

House renovation is really tough. If he's still your best friend and your not fighting then you're doing well imo.
Your title says you want to split up. Is that what you really want to do or rather get the house finished? From January this year is not that long to get even minor renovations done.
You will find, at some point, that it all starts to come together. But this part, where everything is a mess, really is the worst bit. Are you doing work yourselves or paying people?