What’s your view on this?

[Jvlu]

I looked at something recently that I wanted opinions about.

Here’s the scenario: 2 people are friends. They have been friends for a long time and have often shared a bed platonically together.

On one occasion after a party, friend 1 invites friend 2 back to their place. They get ready to sleep in the same bed. On this occasion, friend 1 is wearing fewer clothes than usual and spoons up into friend 2.

This surprises friend 2 since usually there has been no such contact, intimacy or proximity. Friend 2 in their drunken state interprets this as a sign friend 1 may want more than friendship, and moves a hand to a more intimate area. Friend 1 says no, not to touch them like that, and friend 2 stops straight away and apologizes. They fall asleep together, friend 2 apologizes and friend 1 hugs friend 2 the next day before friend 2 leaves.

What has happened here? Has friend 2 done nothing more than tested a boundary, been rejected, and respectfully apologised? What about friend 1’s role? is there more to this?

If you're 1 op, you're acting inappropriately toward your friend, treating him/her like a eunuch/teddy bear/substitute partner .... accepting apologies from them for natural, understandable responses to your actions ...it's not really fair.

Its quite a jump from a cuddle to touching someone intimately so friend 2 overstepped significantly

I really disagree. I’ve never spooned with anyone I’ve not been having sex with. That was the point to say no IMO. It’s step one before actually getting more intimate, so the ‘intimate touch’ was fine. 2 immediately withdrew when 1 said no.

I don’t see anything wrong with this interaction. Other than it maybe being a bit embarrassing the morning after.