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Is my boyfriend bi?

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Momof2xo · 07/09/2022 11:09

I have been with my boyfriend nearly 2 years.. we have 2 small kids together and have had our fair share of problems. He also has a drink/drug problem he is currently in help for. I have been made aware by him of a fantasy of him being with another man while he has been drunk but we have never discussed sober. (His idea not mine) a few days ago I found messages on his phone to other men talking dirty and sending dirty pictures.. what do I do.

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justaladyLOL · 07/09/2022 11:12

He is thinking of cheating
He is a druggie
Has a drink problem
What do you think you should do

MessyBunPersonified · 07/09/2022 11:14

It doesn't matter if he is bi.

He is an addict, and a cheat.

SandrasAnnoyingFriend · 07/09/2022 11:14

His sexuality is really not the issue here. He is being unfaithful in his conduct and you have lots of problems.
It's not your job to figure him out, if he's making you stressed, anxious and doubtful then walk away from him.

GreenManalishi · 07/09/2022 11:16

Do you and your two small children want to live with a man with alcohol and drug addictions, who wants to shag men behind your back?

If you can work out the answer to this, then you've got your answer.

SummerHouse · 07/09/2022 11:19

You need to leave him. I would call the dick pics cheating already. Doesn't really matter what the genitals are. He is in a dark place and you can't help him, only yourself and your children.

fruitbrewhaha · 07/09/2022 11:19

Yeah I expect so.

You should probably spent a bit more time getting to know him before you had two children with him.

fruitbrewhaha · 07/09/2022 11:21

Sorry, that was rubbish of me! It's not your fault he's shit.

You have options OP, he doesn't have to stay your partner.

DreamToNightmare · 07/09/2022 11:38

So in less than two years you’ve found a man, had two children with him, you’ve had a relationship that’s been full of problems, he’s a drug addict, an alcoholic and a cheat?

That’s quite a rocky two years…

You need to leave him because you deserve better and your children definitely deserve better too.

BeetrootBeetrootGhali · 07/09/2022 11:40

DreamToNightmare · 07/09/2022 11:38

So in less than two years you’ve found a man, had two children with him, you’ve had a relationship that’s been full of problems, he’s a drug addict, an alcoholic and a cheat?

That’s quite a rocky two years…

You need to leave him because you deserve better and your children definitely deserve better too.

Twins, doncha know. Always twins.

Seaweed42 · 07/09/2022 11:50

He could be gay. The drink and drugs could be related to him trying to suppress these feelings.
But he's a cheating druggie. Get your kids away from him.
He's either Bi or Gay. But he's a cheater no matter who he's cheating with and get an STI test.
You did nothing wrong, and you cannot fix him.

EmptyHouse0822 · 07/09/2022 12:31

BeetrootBeetrootGhali · 07/09/2022 11:40

Twins, doncha know. Always twins.

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noclothesinbed · 07/09/2022 14:58

I think you need to address the cheating regardless of who it's with man or woman. He hasn't got a lot going for him has he. What sort of role model is he for your children. I think you would be better off without him

Nagado · 07/09/2022 16:51

I think his sexuality is probably quite far down the list of things you need to be worrying about here.

Smellywellyhoo · 07/09/2022 17:21

Please do not have any more kids with this man.

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