He still in my head each day

[WhyI]

I wrote a post on here awhile back about a male friend. When we had got kind of close communicating over a social media site. It started before lockdown he did say we are friends etc.
We both have someone and suppose because my someone just not treating right sometimes I be just going to him. I know deep down nothing in it. Especially after a chat with asking if he still after me he said no we just friends. Certain thing he said made me wonder. I keep just thinking all sorts like he going to rescue me from situation. I do actually miss him a lot maybe he thought he was giving of the wrong signals to me and just left me be.
I actually miss seeing him too we just completely. He really is not really my type looks wise my somebody is. This male friend more understanding and I just want to see him.
Maybe message say hi as now it's most me now. He really backed off now.
I notice him looking at my stories and just he does cross my mind each but been pushing it to the back of my head. Nothing can happen romantically but my mind is thinking all sorts now. How do I just make it go away these feelings,?

Block him for a good 6 months and get new friends? IDN to be honest. FOcus on your real relationship in real life?

@ladydoris

It would be childish to block him when he not actually done anything. We haven't at all.

I probably need to just stop depending on him like he will rescue me. He a friend a nothing will happen. I know if I keep going like this will lose our friendship. He been there for me a lot. Listening to my problems and when I had no one around and I contacted him. None knew about this issue it was private I told him. I was literally going crazy he did calm me down.

I think he more open about his family so really it's him it's me that needs to stop being stupid.

I just always want to talk to him that's the issue. But we haven't for while though but I miss him.

This is why I said to block him: you cannot see what's going on with him, he cannot see what's going on with you. Do a thing that actively tells you that you are going to put a boundary there. You should not have shared with him really. Also to break this spell of "I've only talked to him" just talk to someone else. And decide from now on to ask for support from someone else? You are not a good friend to him. He has been a good friend to you. Start being a good friend by having proper boundaries even if it's in your head. That's the least you could do as a friend. This is a way of showing respect to yourself as well. Snap out of it.

@ladydoris

I can't block him just need to leave him but I know he will message how are you.

This why I ask him how is your family just drumming it my head we friends. We are and just use him to escape.

I probably will just back off a bit but see what your saying.

Does his partner know you and he are messaging one another?

@Cheminaufaules

I don't know but there's nothing really in this.

We don't talk as much as we use too.

It's me probably that misses the chats think he seems like he backed off and I do respect that.

I just keeping missing our conversations and how he use to come say hi where I am working.

Whatever happened was a long time ago between but wasn't sex. I know we gone from that to just friends.

I just need to take a step back leave him be. I know he always there for me to talk to.
Think from today try my best not to contact him..I do miss our chats and us just generally talking about things.. I spoke to him the other day but wasn't much. It's not the same so have to just leave. Not sure what I am expecting from him.
I know these feelings need to just go..But may have a few months no contact.

You’ve talked a few times about this guy rescuing you. You can’t rely on this guy to fix your life. You need to do that yourself. But are there reasons why you have to stay in your current relationship? It’s a bad sign that you want to be rescued from it.

I think you need to look at the issues in your current relationship. If he’s not treating you right and you are feeling like you want to be ‘rescued’ it doesn’t sound like you are happy at all. Regardless of whether this other man is or isn’t interested you don’t have to stay with your current ‘someone.’

It sounds like you need to leave your current relationship and maybe spend some time healing yourself and working on building your friendships and support network before you start dating again.

@Dery

I have been on a rollercoaster ride with my DP. Now my DP seems to be okay and he said no need to feel jealous now as no one can take me.

This other guy been there listening to me and given good advice.
I think he drawn me in he was chasing me well messaging now each day all I want is to message him.
I am even dreaming of this friend.

Like I said I have to back off now. The feelings I developed wasn't expected keep saying I was just looking for a way to escape my current situation. But like I said my DP changed and this other guy knows the situation so ofcourse he will back off.
We just have a great connection nothing more than that. Not probably a romantic one either. We just become close friends from when I use to think he annoying me but now I think he alright. I got him wrong and sometimes regret years ago not dating him. It was too late he got married.
So I backed off he wasn't even the type I go for but he grown on me and looks is not what has drawn me to do him. I didn't fancy him at all. But for some reason I now have caught feelings.
I think from today I think won't contact him. I just need to get this off my chest to someone.