Thinking about ex that I left….why?

[Underwaterrr]

I was seeing someone for around 9 months. Things was mostly good other then they poured quite a lot of pressure on me to see them, made me feel guilty if I saw friends or wanted to stay home alone etc
after a really shitty marriage breakfdown 2 years previous, I just couldn’t carry on with this new relationship (I did mention these issues a few times and each time things got better then went back to normal)

It got too much and I felt claustrophobic and when we was apart I felt relief and free. Im now nearly two months past and I keep thinking about them. I haven’t contacted them, Altho I’ve thought about it, as I wouldn’t want to lead them on, but why do i
keep thinking about them and remembering the good times?

I could have written your post. I went though an awful divorce and got into a new relationship (still in it) but also have felt suffocated) and frequently asked for time apart and have tried to end it on several occasions. I think maybe still healing? like I would just be happy dating at a weekend

it’s normal to think of the good times, I know it sounds odd but writing a list of the bad points to your relationship and reading over them when you start reminiscing might help?

I never really thought of it as to do with healing from the divorce but it does make sense, thanks :)
hope you get sorted with your situation

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