What would you do? Move or stay?

[CZP22]

I’ll try and keep this as short as possible.
I have a 10 year old son, I moved to a new county when I was pregnant with him with his dad. Dad is no longer on the scene but I stayed in the area. Fast forward 10 years,
sons dad is long gone but I now have a 7 month old daughter with a guy I was casually seeing last year.
Now, when my daughter was 4 months old my male best friend of years and years admitted his feelings and we are now a couple. I’m very happy, the kids are happy and we have spoken about living together. Only thing that’s keeping me in the area is daughters dad and his family. He’s a good dad to her, and his family have been nothing but good to us and supportive and accepting of the situation of her being born from a casual fling.
I do not want to cause any breakdown of a relationship with her father or his family, but I also want to move back to my home town at some point with my partner x but her dad has said he refuses to travel (1hr 20 mins drive) to see her. I’ve suggested we share travel, I bring her back one week and he does the next etc but he won’t budge. I’m not interested in tit for tat, my only concern is my daughter maintaining a relationship with her dad and family. Do I stay or do I go?

part of me thinks that if he's unwilling to drive that tiny amount of time to see his daughter he's not much of a dad anyway.
I'd say don't dither, hold tight and watch as he drives a tiny 1 hour 20 to see his child.
would his family help out? would his family kick up a huge fuss and persuade her to live with him etc?
it's your life not theirs ultimately...

This is a copy of what he has said
HIM— “It's about time you got your license and car sorted especially if you're thinking about moving over there so you'll be able to drop her off and pick her up every weekend”

ME “ if we did move I’d share travel.”

HIM “There's be no sharing I've already had 1 child moved across the country that I have to travel hours to see i won't be doing it again”

ME “obviously if I did move I’d talk to you about it all first and work it all out”

HIM “There's nothing to work out if you moved away then you'll have to pick her up and bring her back”

he has a son that he does have to do a 4 hour round trip to visit…but that’s not my fault.
And no I don’t think his family would get funny about it. His mum is absolutely lovely.

Sorry. He already knows how hard it is. It's worth staying in the area for your child to have the relationship with dad and his family.

Can't boyfriend move to you?

Move

My daily commute to work is longer than that !

i would move . He is being pathetic

Unfortunately not x my partner owns his house and is very happy where he is and settled. His job wouldn't allow it either.