Best way to find a man..

[DavidWirral]

I read a lot about the sad state of affairs for women on OLD.. but i have come to give the ultimate tip.

Sit at the bar on your own in a pub.. i guarantee men will come and talk to you.

... all men are scared of being reported for harassment if that were true then men wouldn't harass/assault/rape/murder women at the rate they do. I'm nearly 60 and still get the odd twat bothering me. I was followed around a car boot sale recently, of all places, and he followed me to my car. Just leave me alone!

My list of boyfriends pre OLD when I was younger all lasted a few years
Cute Neighbour
Met at a festival
Another at a gig
Introduced by a friend
Met DH on a night out

@MillyWithaY

"... "all men are scared of being reported for harassment" if that were true then men wouldn't harass/assault/rape/murder women at the rate they do.

+++

This reminded me of a conversation with DS (16) tonight in which he said that dating girls at school is basically a minefield where if you say or do something wrong or even perceived by the girl as wrong then you will immediately be hauled in for harassment/ inappropriate behaviour regardless of whether it was true / false or intentional/ unintentional. And that in his view is way safer to stay away from girls and yes he is scared of being reported for harassment.

Now I believe that I have brought DS to be respectful to women but I see his point and it is sad he feels this way.

The problem is that those men / boys who have been brought up to be respectful to women are unlikely to harass / assault/ rape but are the ones that are scared of being reported for harassment. Whereas those men with no respect for women / misogynistic views and are more likely to harass / assault etc women and are not scared or are too thick / entrenched in their views to be scared about of being reported for harassment.

@KensingtonStation just Google small independent music festivals in whatever genre(s) of music are your cup of tea. Avoid avoid avoid the big commercial festivals. Find somewhere in a nice location, take a tent, and prepare to make friends. I felt really weird going to my first festival alone (Waveform) but was made to feel very welcome. If you get anxious, find a tea tent and make friends with the people running it. Your connections will soon expand. Cleaning your teeth in a field is a great leveller.

Whereas you, on the other hand, sound delightful.

Bumping into someone in the supermarket or dog walking is mainly for Hallmark Christmas movies

And a Disney+ adult horror movie

I honestly don't know.
OLD seems like a minefield of chancers.
Random encounters in general day-to-day always feel inappropriate to approach.

Your best bet is probably just doing hobbies/activities you enjoy, then you may meet someone likeminded over a period of time.

<shrug>

¡Joder! This thread has turned into quite the Spanish swear-fest. Fwiw I was very much not looking for a relationship when I met DH, in a bar, with mutual friends #teamdamadeekche

A festival (music / literature etc) sounds like a great way to meet people too.

I tried this a few times, sitting at a bar by myself. Men looked at me...possibly thinking poor bitch, she's been stood up!😂

Have you tried a pit trap?

Like the one in which Pooh and Piglet tried to catch a Heffalump @Grumpusaurus ?

Could work...

Yeah that would be the design inspiration... 😀

I should have added that I was in my mid -50s when I started going to festivals alone. And met my now husband at one. So it's not just for kids. Just be careful not to go anywhere near a big commercial festival !

I met two long term boyfriend's at festivals. Neither worked out but I was young and enjoyed the time we spent together.

Met my current DP at school and harboured a secret crush on him for over 20 years. Plucked up the courage to tell him after one to many in our local and luckily for.me he felt the same. We had been friends all that time and both thought the other wasn't interested romantically. I'd say I wish I had told him sooner but the timing wouldn't have been right I don't think. It is now and we're both blissfully happy 😊

i guarantee men will come and talk to you

This is why I don't, even in this day & age, want to go to the pub on my own. Men can go and have a pint by themselves and have a casual chat with whoever's around, but women can't do this in the same way, unfortunately.

😂

It’s funny how so many men think women just want to ‘find a man ‘ , any man ….and will suggest ridiculous ways to attract a male

nooooooo what women ‘wanting to meet a man ‘ want is to meet a Man who is a decent human being , something in serious short supply now days with most of them being porn addicted creeps or just letcherous perverts who feel entitled to much younger women or have addictions or are cheaters.
When women lament where have the men gone they usually mean where have they decent men gone

somehow I doubt ant men who have solid morals no addictions and don’t feel entitled are sitting at bars waiting to approach single women

Agree with the above post.

Any single woman can find a man. Cock is abundant.

It's finding an interesting, self-supporting, emotional connected, non-cheater, wants to date his age etc etc that's the difficult bit. Someone you are happy to introduce your friends and family to.

Of course they are around but they have the choice of hundreds of single women who meet the above criterion without breaking a sweat.

I still keep my eyes out, but I'm not going to spend my evenings sitting in pubs on my own on the off chance I might bump into one. I'm off out with my friends or at home or working in my studio, you only have one life.

Men and women typically want different things - most remain unsatisfied in their pursuit for a partner.

I also don't buy into the logic of men have gotten worse as time has gone by. I'd say it's more the fact women don't need a man like they once did and therefore don't have to settle.

Now when it comes to ultimate life satisfaction and contentment I don't think there is anything wrong with settling. That's easier to say in hindsight however.

I thought this would be tips on the best place to stick an apple tag to them.

We don’t have trouble finding men, we can meet a man at anytime for sex its finding a man who isn’t a complete dick that’s the issue. You’re just not good enough for us.

@Lpc3
I also don't buy into the logic of men have gotten worse as time has gone by. I'd say it's more the fact women don't need a man like they once did and therefore don't have to settle.

Agree with this 100%.

There are a lot of unfair aspects that men enjoy over women in our society but to me this is the main one. I love a pint on my own in a nice cosy pub and I would be utterly raging if I couldn't do this without being constantly approached

If you were the woman from Elche, wouldn't you call yourself LaDamaD'Elx and not use the Spanish?
<muses>

@Lpc3
I also don't buy into the logic of men have gotten worse as time has gone by. I'd say it's more the fact women don't need a man like they once did and therefore don't have to settle

ypure* *right , men have always been bad and now women simply no longer have to put up with it

women have always been at risk of being sexually abused and used by men , violence , rape murder…. * *