Newly wed blues

[Uptown2022]

I have read that it’s quite typical to get the blues while coming down from a wedding, but I am struggling!

I feel incredibly lonely and don’t really understand why because day to day life hasn’t changed. And then I worry that this was how I felt all along but got distracted by thinking about planning a wedding while Covid was happening.

I’m probably blowing everything out of proportion. Like my husband enjoys spending time with friends. Currently, in my head this means he prefers spending time with anyone other than me and he isn’t interested in anything I have to think or say.

I work from home and my friends live quite far away and are all busy with babies, etc. I’ve explained that I need my partner to speak to me and listen to me, but he’s not always great at that.

I’ve also never handled change very well.

Anyone relate?

It sounds like the issue is that you have nothing going on socially in your life and you expect your DH to fill that hole. Look at getting yourself some hobbies etc out of the house.

I also WFH and force myself to get out most evenings otherwise I'm just sitting in being miserable.

Yeh, you’re right!

For years I was too ill to really do much but work and recover to go to work again the next day!

Now working from home means I can do more. Just need to figure out what now without friends close.

I got married 15 years ago but your post jogged some memories of the post-wedding blues! I took up new hobbies at the time - did an interior design course and learned how to use a sewing machine. The blues didn't last long.

Yep sounds like you need to build a life for you.

I fell into a similar trap earlier in the year - i was wfh, hating my job, social life hadn't quite got back to pre covid, while my partner was back at work in person and with great office camaraderie. I forgot to look after myself and started to become less fun to be with, vicious circle.