Comment made to pregnant wife

[Sunshine0110]

If you were pregnant and your DH made a comment about a younger woman who he works with, as in “I would have 10 years ago” would you be upset?

My friend’s DH made this comment and was very upset. I think it’s totally understandable but her DH doesn’t. He’s usually a nice guy, loves her and supportive, and very much looking forward to becoming a father. So I was quite shocked, he hasn’t shown any signs of being interested as apparently she’s lazy and immature and quite flirty with most male colleagues.

My friend is upset as he doesn’t seem to understand how this has come across to her.

That would piss me off!

I'd be very upset if we'd been together 10 years ago. Much less so if not.

I'd be upset regardless of whether or not I was pregnant. What a strange thing for him to say to her, especially when she's pregnant, hormonal, and won't be feeling her best.

Your friend now has to deal with the fact that her DH is going to work every day and seeing this woman who he obviously finds attractive. It's fine to find other people attractive, it is not okay to randomly express that fact for no reason.

I hope your friend is okay, just be there for her and give her some encouragement about how great she. Hopefully her DH won't be making more comments like that.

It’s just a weird sleazy thing to say. The flirtatious nature and maturity of the object of his sleaze is wholly irrelevant.

Would he enjoy it if your friend were to point out attractive men and go ‘I would, if only I wasn’t pregnant’? She should ask him.

If I’m reading this correctly, he didn’t say it to the younger woman, he merely made the comment about her to his pregnant wife? Honestly, I think it’s a thoughtless throw away comment that would be on if it weren’t for being pregnant. A foot in mouth moment for him, but not anything to hold against him so long as he apologises.

I think she should explain her feelings in detail to him. They will be magnified if she is heavily pregnant as quite frankly, I felt like a monstrosity myself. I never had that oh I have a cute round bhudda belly, I’m such an earth goddess appreciation for my pregnant body. I hated it, despised it. I barely recognised myself. I wanted the DC and it was worth it for DC, but pregnancy was not something I even remotely enjoyed or liked. So, yes any comment that would have me mentally comparing my rotund waddling self to an unpregnant ten year younger woman would make me upset. I can understand he didn’t mean it that way but he needs to be more aware to keep commentary on other women to himself for the time being.

A man who thinks they have a chance in hell….. only because they have a beautiful wife at home.

Guy is a throw back and nothing in the world will make him anything other.

Poor woman, giving her body and life to such trash. I hope she can rise above it.

PS instead of fantasizing about another woman he might want to start one about pleasing the woman he has… ick written all over him.

I would be upset, because of the disrespect too.

he hasn’t shown any signs of being interested as apparently she’s lazy and immature and quite flirty with most male colleagues

You really think those things would out a man off a woman? If a man is interested and horny, he wont give a damn although he may pretend hed never go there.

He's been disrespectful to his wife, and derogatory about his colleague. He sounds unpleasant

How sleazy of her DH!

I'd have been very upset, pregnant or not. I'd very likely have laid into him heavily over it. I don't think I could have let it go.