Ive been with my current partner for 3 and a half years and have a nearly 1 year old son together. For the most part he makes me really happy and is a great dad to our son. My ex was very abusive and 1 thing I had said was important with my current partner was that he was not to lie to me. He overstepped this mark with a little white lie a few months ago no big deal but I made sure to remind him no lies. Last night a text pops up on his phone from a girl he works with (who he told me had left ages ago so I was surprised) I couldn't help open then message and seen previous messages of her telling him she was speaking to the boss who wanted to offer him a job 5 minutes from home. He currently travels 1 hour 20 minutes to and from work. He declined the offer and mentioned nothing to me about any of it. Knowing this I asked if he could speak to someone about getting moved or did anyone in work know anything and he denied everything to my face. I confronted him and he tried to downplay everything making out as if I would have overreacted and its not a big deal. For context we've lived together for 2 years and he hasn't yet moved his doctor, hospital or work from the North to the South so I couldn't understand him refusing the job closer to home. Anytime I try get him to commit properly he says his anxiety is stopping him moving everything. I lay awake all night last night thinking about everything, the lies, how he doesn't help around the house, always has lie ins and leaves majority of things to me, is always on his phone and less present with our son as of late, I have to make all the effort and feel alone, so unappreciated and disrespected. I tried to talk my feelings out with him and he acted the victim in every message telling me I'm just attacking his flaws. I really love this man and he makes me so happy but I'm tired of being in a relationship with what feels like a child so I told him I wanted to end things. Did I overreact?.