He's retreated...will he come back?!?

[Blackcatnofat]

So I met up with a guy, 2nd date and we DTD on Friday. All very promising up to that point, lots of contact and niceness.

Since then - two texts yesterday and one today explaining he couldn't meet me as we'd arranged...

What are the chances of him coming back? Not chasing obviously - if he wants to meet he'll let me know.

Odds are v low

Write this one off

Not likely sorry.

He got what he was after, I'm afraid.

It's shit isn't it.
I've had the same. Guy was really into me, first date was amazing. As was second. And now he'll casually throw me one message a day, he's clearly doing a slow retreat.
I'm sorry. Dating is rubbish

If you're wanting a future with someone, stop fucking them almost as soon as you meet them. Don't have sex with them for a good long while. You need to weed out the men who just want an easy shag and find the men who are actually interested in you as a person.

Just ignore him for a bit and he’ll be around. But who wants to play games?

I don’t necessarily agree that DTD has anything to do with this. I mean, he might have stuck around longer and waited but that doesn’t make him worth having nor would it make someone who is not ready for a relationship suddenly relationship material.

There was a very similar thread today: she slept with a guy really quickly and she was worried about contact reducing to almost nothing soon after that.

It is really the same old story. The guy was always after one thing and stopped being nice and interested as soon as he got it.

The advice is always the same too: take your time to know a man before you sleep with him that will help to some degree to weed out the casual sex seekers.