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i have a crush on a guy but i’m in a relation ship

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lacamisanegra · 04/09/2022 19:10

me (17m) and my gf(18) have begin dating for 6 months

i live her she makes me happy but i can’t get this guy out of my head. hes actually one of her friend (15) and i met him this year. we had 2 parties together. the first one i got really drunk and i was having kind of a breakdown. i vented to him
about my ed and i listened to me and tried his hardest to cheer me up. himself suffers from the same ed as me and when we talked together i felt so understood that i wanna talk to him everyday. the second party he was really drunk but cheerful. that night he confessed to me that if i wasn’t already dating my gf he would have tried to kiss me. since this night i can’t get him out of my head because i would have done the same thing if i wasn’t dating her. i don’t really know if he was being honest ´. i know that if i had kissed him i would have wanted to be in a relationship with him cause i’m not into kissing random people. i feel really guilty for even thinking about him in that way while dating my gf who’s an amazing but really unstable mentally and kind of draining person. i dont know what to anymore. i still love my gf but the feeling aren’t as strong as they used to be in the beginning of our relationship. i’m confused about my sexuality and i’ve never felt that way because of a guy. i’m scared it might not be a crush but just attachment issues or me asking for men validation but he’s so sweet handsome and even tho i’ve only talked to him like 5 times i really dont wanna lose him.

OP posts:
Dotcheck · 04/09/2022 19:15

It’s ok if your girlfriend isn’t quite right for you. It’s also ok if you are exploring your sexuality, and if you give yourself the space to do so.

What wouldn’t be ok is if you are with your girlfriend if you know you like someone else- you’ll just end up really hurting her

Bukhara · 04/09/2022 19:23

Honestly, OP, no one is in love with someone they’ve been seeing for 6 months aged 17, and whom they also describe as ‘unstable mentally’ and ‘kind of draining’. Just end this relationship and be free to explore other options.

I thought from your title that you were in a longterm, committed relationship you wanted to stay in and were struggling with a crush!

ThatsAllFolks · 04/09/2022 19:24

Yeah, u r still really young. U have time to explore. Don't cheat on ur gf. And remember he also young and younger than u. It might be that the relationship with ur gf fizzles out or it might be that u end it or she does. Always be the better guy. One at a time.

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