Do you have any relatives who irritate the life out of you?

Leavemealoneeeeeee · 2022-09-04T13:51:41+00:00

My aunt drives me up the wall in ways no other person has ever managed. I have never met a more irritating person in all of my life. Just talking to her on the phone puts me in a bad mood so I screen most of her calls and only deal with her in small doses to keep the peace. Do you have any relatives who irritate you to the extent you try to avoid them at all costs?

HandbagAtDawn · 04/09/2022 14:53

MIL.

Hbh17 · 04/09/2022 14:55

All of them! 😂
I just stay well clear, so it's fine.

justthecat · 04/09/2022 14:56

Yh I married him 😂

ThiagoSilvasToe · 04/09/2022 14:56

All of them...

EddieHowesBlackandWhiteArmy · 04/09/2022 14:57

Yep my grandma. She’s a pain in the backside.

PinkButtercups · 04/09/2022 14:59

justthecat · 04/09/2022 14:56

Yh I married him 😂

Relative? Yeehaw.

Bouledeneige · 04/09/2022 15:00

One of my DSis - she's probably marginally autistic to be fair as she's totally unaware of peoples' feelings. For example - using a nickname for my DD for years that I told her she hated; constantly asking my niece if she had a boyfriend yet (with the emphasis on yet - so much so my niece texted me at family Christmas saying if she asks me one more time I'm going to punch her); if she liked your top she'd just grab the back of the collar as you were wearing it to look at the label; saying racist things and then when I objected saying she worried I'd cope in a professional environment (she'd be sacked saying stuff like that in my workplace); drinking fizzy water in bed when we shared a room and hiccuping all night. The list goes on...... She sets my teeth on edge.

MissingNashville · 04/09/2022 15:03

We cut the ones out that we didn’t like. That may be too harsh for some people but I’d recommend it. My mental health is so much better now.

newyearsresolurion · 04/09/2022 15:04

I just go very quiet

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Leavemealoneeeeeee · 04/09/2022 15:12

Bouledeneige · 04/09/2022 15:00

One of my DSis - she's probably marginally autistic to be fair as she's totally unaware of peoples' feelings. For example - using a nickname for my DD for years that I told her she hated; constantly asking my niece if she had a boyfriend yet (with the emphasis on yet - so much so my niece texted me at family Christmas saying if she asks me one more time I'm going to punch her); if she liked your top she'd just grab the back of the collar as you were wearing it to look at the label; saying racist things and then when I objected saying she worried I'd cope in a professional environment (she'd be sacked saying stuff like that in my workplace); drinking fizzy water in bed when we shared a room and hiccuping all night. The list goes on...... She sets my teeth on edge.

Oh dear, she sounds alot like my aunt.

Totally ignorant/unaware to peoples feelings.
Forever putting her foot in it and causing offence even when previously asked not to go on about XYZ.
No regard for people's personal space and very touchy.
Patronising.

It's definitely not autism in her case (my DH and DS are on the spectrum so I'd spot it a mile off) but she does have some MH problems.

Setting your teeth on edge. Absolutely that with bells on. Very fitting!

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pinkbowl · 04/09/2022 15:13

One of my sisters. I try really very hard to connect with her but It's impossible and causes me pain.
She is very emotionally shallow and plays life by some stage rules I don't understand.
She makes friends fast but never keeps them for long.
She has some good qualities but it's difficult to remember what they are sometimes.
I do have another sister I am very close too.
We were very close as children.

pinkbowl · 04/09/2022 15:20

And her awful cackle laugh is the absolutely most irritating thing you will ever hear. She puts videos on our group family chat of her beautiful granddaughter (who I adore) and every time she ruins it with her fucking annoying whichy cackle in the background. Just fucking fuck the fuck off!!! 😒

KittyCatsby · 04/09/2022 15:24

My mil , never been the brightest button in the box , but now she is quite elderly so I'm practising my be kind outlook on her.

FourChimneys · 04/09/2022 15:28

I used to have three but I have arranged my life so that I don't need to see them more than once every few years. If the one on DHs side of the family phones up I'm always too busy to talk so call for him or say he'll ring back.

CoraContrary · 04/09/2022 15:38

My mum. I feel awful saying it as she is a very caring person but I can rarely tolerate her.

If you call her she will open with some dramatic story that has happened since you last spoke. This story will be the most rambling, unclear and incoherent mess but also very in-depth in places for a good ten/twenty mins. Then it will come to her that she should ask how the caller is... most times. Then she goes right back to her story. Which I have probably heard before anyway.

Duchess379 · 04/09/2022 16:21

Yes, all of my cousins. Thankfully they live in one county & I live about 100 miles away in another. Works perfectly for me

Sunnytwobridges · 04/09/2022 16:34

Yes my dsis. And sometimes my dd. 😂

fucap · 04/09/2022 16:44

An aunt and her husband. Can't bear them.
She's homophobic and I've told her endless times that it's not appropriate. We have gay family members and she just "huffs" when their names are mentioned.
She sends me emails and kicks off if they aren't answered immediately but most of them are full of such judgemental guff I have no idea what to say.
And her husband is a know it all who is better than all the rest of us. Gets himself involved with things that have absolutely nothing to do with him, passes judgement from his throne up on high and says things like "I thought Catholics were supposed to forgive others" ... everything that anyone does that he doesn't approve of, he brings it back to the Catholicism thing.
I get it, you don't like Catholics, but you married into a Catholic family and the least you could do is show a bit of respect and maybe not mention the subject.