Can we accept that after 30plus years together, our relationship is at best friend and not just 'I can't be bothered to change'?

[Suburbanqueen]

I have been with DH for 32 years, married for 27. I am pretty sure we no longer 'love' each other. We rub along as sort of friends but am I wrong to expect more? I feel people lie when they say they love each other more every day. Most of the time, I'm not even sure he even likes me, nor I him. We are in our 60s and we don't have the appetite for change, e.g. selling the house and dividing the meagre assets. I am trying to live my own life and develop s social circle without him with other 'strong women'. We 'retired' to the South Coast but I couldn't wait to get back to work where I am just me and not part of a couple. How do you all cope?

Together for 33 years, married for 30, and sorry but yes, I do love him more and more. It's not always been easy, we've had tough times but we've always stuck together and got through them.
The three kids are away now, got their own homes, and so we do lots of stuff together that we didn't have the money to do when we were younger. We also just go for walks, or watch daft telly, just simple stuff. And yes, the sex is still fabulous.
I do think you have to really like your partner as a best friend to last the course though.

Some will be like you and others will be all loved up still. 🙂 Each to their own.

If it works for you, then fine. I am in your camp - can't be bothered getting divorced to have a lower lifestyle, so plodding on but we are like those clichéd couples with our own separate hobbies, etc.
He pays for everything, I work and am planning on expanding my social life with my female friends.
We holiday together once a year, occasionally socialise with another couple we are great friends with and generally rub along ok. No sex for a long time now though - resentment on my part from our early years has put paid to that.

Living apart, together!

42 years married, both in our 60's (me 68 and DH 64). We are still very much in love.

Of course we have had our ups and downs and been through some tough times but we have never stopped loving each other.

We are also best friends and both of us would rather spend time with the other than anyone else.

Sex is not very frequent now mainly due to my ill health but we are always cuddling, kissing, holding hands etc