Married Couple Finances

[SpexyBeast]

Couples what do you do with your finances?

Been married for 6 years. Problems been showing for a little while mostly down to money and different parenting approaches. (I have a teenager he is a step parent to)

Got to the point were I was having to explain every single transaction I made from the joint account even for little things like cleaning stuff and Christmas presents (under £25.00).

Had it before were we had our finances separate but ended up paying 50/50 for absolutely everything and it ended were I was left with absolutely nothing at the end of the month (work part time due to mental health and my child to pay for).

I dont feel I have any financial independence as I’m always worried about spending money from the joint account and if we have separate money I end up with nothing at the end of the month as 50/50 bills and a teenager costs me a lot.

Anyone help?

Let him moan all he likes op. You can’t do anything about not getting maintenance from your ex and he’s married a woman with a child he has to also include her child.

This is financial abuse op. Stand up for yourself and if he doesn’t agree then split up with him. You can increase your working hours and he can decereaee his to do 50/50 childcare or he can pay you to do his share. If you’re on a low income you will also be entitled to benefits.

Also who does the childcare and housework? Is there equity there? Start questioning him why he hasn’t changed the beds etc.

My ex ‘paid’ me an amount that was just enough to cover shopping and kids clubs but not enough for petrol or anything else. It was very demeaning having to ask for money and justify it. Especially as he was a good earner and could only earn because I was a sahm. Previous to being a sahm I was in a well earning career too.

Im so much happier single op. I have my own income to do with as I want.

Why are you asking? You have EQUAL say in how you run your finances.
You keep CM.
You keep CB.
Does he earn more than you? You should put a percentage in to the joint account, not split bills 50/50.
Do you question everything he spends? Why not if you don't?
I really think you need your own account, especially if you have a child.

The only part i query is why you don't go to the cms if you don't get regular payments

Is there money left in joint account at end of month?

I wonder in what other ways he treats the child in a nasty manner.

Just don't get why anyone subjugates themselves to a selfish, mean control freak.

I have never gone to child support as he does pay me occasionally but doesn't work so nowhere to claim the money from.

Yes there is money left in the joint account each month.