Yet another sex thread....sorry!!!!

[Clandestineregular]

Apologies for name change. However, I wanted to get perspective on this.

I have recently separated from my dh and have a new partner. It has made me realise that in the past I have always expected sex to be about the man entering me and coming. Last week I was having sex with the new guy and I was completely shocked by how good it was and how diffent it is when he touches me from any of the other men I have slept with.

So my question is - are most men as considerate as he is and have I been very unlucky in the psst?

Crikey sorry for the typos!

can't help sorry - my dh is my one and only and is much the same as your new partner, so no complaints from me!

No you are just very lucky now!!

It's a lottery I've found, some men are considerate, some men haven't got a clue, but I actually define it differently. The way I see it is some men are already trained, and therefore are considerate in bed like your dp, and some men, sadly, aren't trained. If you're willing to put in the effort any man can be trained by you, but it's much more fun to find one who already has all the relevant qualifications!

He's younger than me too. I had no idea how much I've missed out.

in my experience (as limited as it is), number of partners / training doesn't seem to be the deciding factor in what makes a good lover. it seems to be personality. my dh is very considerate. previous lovers just didn't seem to care much about my pleasure... i'm glad they're exes!

All men can be improved but their are also men that are "naturals". An improved 'natural' can't be beaten.

Well done on finding one.

my ex wasn't awful in bed by any means, but sex with my new partner is completely different. the only way i can describe it is that with my ex it was more about lust and it just being sex, where with my new partner it is much more like making love. Lucky you for finding someone who makes you feel great in the bedroom!

I think you could compare it to cooking. Some people are good, look for variety and try interesting herbs and spices, whilst some just open a can of beans. NB this applies to women as well as men.
To Clandestineregular be sure to compliment your new lover, encourage him in every way but also ask him what he likes in return. I promise you that from a good start things can get even better!

Ha! Like the cooking analogy. So true.

The worst kind of lover ? The man who opens the can of beans and eats them all himself.

Find a man who cooks up a feast and makes sure the woman is fed first