I just wanted to get some views on what's a fair split of housework and childcare.
My H doesn't do a lot and it falls to me and I'm completely miserable.
H works 4 nights and also works a second job on a self employed basis and the hours and timings aren't set and won't know till week before what hours/days he will be working.
I also work full-time and since covid my role is mostly from home.
I do the majority of the childcare, cooking cleaning, school drop offs as he is asleep in the morning due to having worked the night before. I also do all meal planning , majority of household admin and pay more as I earn more.
What would a fair split of housework and childcare?
He has a hobby which he does on a Monday night. I don't get to have any time for myself due to his second self employed job and not knowing when he will be working . For example I've started taking a couple of hours for myself to go have a coffee and read a book but now won't be able to as he will be working.
I told him housework and childcare needs to be split evenly as I'm fed up of doing everything by myself. His excuses on his days off are he's too tired to do anything, he hates his job doing nights but won't apply for anything else .