Back to an ex..

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So friends n family don't like him, but as he cheated n did drugs why would they.
Father of my only child. Been seeprtaed 18mths and I dated in between been okay. I've done well since I left him, promotion at work and passed my studying well but I miss family unit.
He's desperate to reconcile and be a family would be good again. He's done some counselling is clean and tests regularly so I know that's factual.
Do you ever get past the past? I feel close to him, he's much more involved with dc since split.
Im incredibly conflicted.

Why would you want a cheat back?

A leopard never changes its spots.

He's the father of my child and genuinly changed pretty significantly in last 18 mths.
I would normally agree ref lepoards n spots but I do know ppl who did to on to make relationships work

Don't be daft. You've put your life together and you really want to allow this loser back in? Please, listen to your family. They see reality and the truth. This man is no good and youre just asking for disaster.

There you go, he's much more involved with DC since the split, ideal! I'm betting he would be less involved if you got back together, so stick to co-parenting, sounds like it's working. You don't know yet if the DC effort is part of winning you back or genuine, as its the right thing to do. If he's still good in another year or 2, you could maybe try dating if you feel the same, but I can't see it being easy, you can't unknow the stuff he's done.

Yep I did love him and we had our son, whose amazing. I am doing okay but I miss a family eg sitting down for a chat n cuddling in front of TV with someone I care about.
Your tight though ref changing for right reason hence why I was a no before now sbou ever ever reconciling

But while you are sat down cuddling with him, he's shagging someone else on the side, remember that when you next look at it with rose tinted glasses, which is what you are doing.
Is he just cuddling you in this image of family time while you watch TV, or DS present - doesn't seem like a good family activity example tbh, which probably shows how little he was doing for the family before the split if that's the happiest memory you've got. Did you play and go out together as a family?

Don't go back. I tried again with my ex (father of my 2 kids) as I thought the same as you; he'd changed, counselling, AA, seemed so different. 3 months in and he's on Tinder and having sex with other women behind my back (he admitted this after I confronted him as a friend of mine found out - he'd never have told me willingly).

They don't change, no matter what they say.

Opentooffers... Yeah we really did nothing as a unit. He worked self employed low wage 7 days a week. But that's what changed. Not salaried employment and much happier and spending more time with dc
Hence why I'm struggling as there is change