Unhealthy relationship-trigger ⚠️ discussion about domestic abuse

[Thewomanwhoissoconfused]

Here is a list of things which my friend has gone through. This post is to remind her about the behaviours in her relationship and to give her the strength to walk away in the future.

physical abuse
Biting people on face even without injury -physical abuse
pushing her over when pregnant-physical abuse
making her sleep on the floor-emotional abuse
pushing her in bed
saying she’s kicked him/hurt him during the night

emotional/verbal abuse
name calling- stupid, worthless,useless, pathetic, a bully, emotional unstable, mentally ill, a bad mother, doesn’t do anything in the house, liar, abusive, weak, children are going to know how bad she is, mad,
saying he will take the kids off her if she leaves him
saying she is mentally unstable
shaming her, belittling her, shouting over her, shouting her down until she gives up, saying he does everything, saying she and the kids would not survive without him,
being angry, raising his voice so she jumps out of her skin, hot and cold, she doesnt know what mood he will be in, slamming things, throwing things,

financial
controlled money, controlled spending,

There is more stuff my friend has gone through but she’s so used to it that it washes over her and she no longer sees it.

My friend feels sad because she left him once and returned. She has tried over the years to leave but it is not all bad and she grew up in an abusive household and has repeated the pattern. She does not always recognise how bad things are because she is so used to this treatment. Years of shit ingrained in her life, her childhood, her relationship.
My friends biggest worry is her children may make the same choices with their relationships. she doesn’t want that for them but she’s scared to leave because ultimately she’s scared he will take her children from her.