Can't seem to let go

[hereagain2022]

Why can't I walk away from another toxic relationship

I have been with my boyfriend for around 7 months

He is becoming fixated with someone I used to date casually, and becomes all distant and weird

He started it after I had to go away with work and was in a hotel room and chatted to him, this reminded him that on another work trip before I met him I slept with someone he knows

He makes me feel anxious and I don't know what I Have done until he admits he has a problem

I need to walk away he told me last time that he felt that someone had gone between us and he had thought about going back on tinder but that he wouldn't meet me again and loved me to much

But he is back to being weird and distant and I suspect sulking which is making me feel anxious and horrible

I make terrible choices in men, but have a lovely life when I am single I don't know why I am putting up with him but here I am panicking that he is about to dump me

Apologies for the long rant but I am feeling stressed and anxious

This is only going to get worse. You have got over the 6 month honeymoon period and are now seeing the true him. He sounds jealous and controlling. Jealous of your past. Get out now. Run. You deserve better.

What did you learn about relationships when you were growing up?. What sort of an example did your parents show you?. You making terrible choices of men could well stem from what you saw in childhood.

Your boundaries, perhaps already skewed by previous abuse, are being further got at by this man now. You probably have and are putting up with this because of poor boundaries and the feeling this is all you deserve from a relationship. This relationship will continue to make you feel unhappy and anxious so it needs to end.

Please look into enrolling yourself onto the Freedom Programme and do not embark on any further relationship until you have worked through this and your reasoning behind such poor choices in men. It is better to be on your own than to be with an abuser.

Thank you both

I know I need to end it

I'm always feeling anxious and trying to please him

Spending money on him , treating him just so he won't dump me

@AttilaTheMeerkat the freedom project is a good idea

I need to make changes