I’m really sorry I’ve posted a few times but I’m in a really bad place. I honestly don’t know if he is the dickhead here or me. People are telling me mixed things.
I’ll try and keep this short… My ex and I were together for 11 months. I was really struggling with my mental health and always asked for reassurance, took everything personally and he told me it was draining but he’d never leave me.
He was pretty quick moving so some people said that he was obsessed with the idea of the perfect relationship, and not me. He said he loved me after 2 weeks.
He was extremely loving to me, he used to say things like “it’s always been us” “I’m proud of you” “you’re beautiful”. He was very supportive of my mental health difficulties and always bigged me up. It got to the point where he was honest with me that it was draining but he’d stick by me.
We had a blip the night before my birthday (lol) where we got very drunk, I became upset because I thought I’d upset him, and I cried a lot. He said he couldn’t handle it and left me crying in my flat at 3am, got his parents to pick him up. He ignored me on my birthday and cancelled my presents. He panicked and ended things, but said 3 days later he didn’t mean it and just wanted to help me.
3 months later, he then offered for me to move into his parents house so we could save for our house. I was so excited but always said there was no pressure. He said it was all he wanted and was really excited.
So I moved in. I was still struggling a bit with anxiety and sometimes I asked him for a lot of reassurance.
Not even 11 days later, he ends it. Said he wanted me to move in because he thought I’d become “less needy”. I was completely in shock and it ended so quickly. I wrote a letter because what we had was so loving, but I never even got a response.
I bump into him 2 weeks later and he is extremely flirty with me, then apologised to me for leading me on.
He didn’t unfollow me or anything. No contact. 2 months later, I ask him for coffee. He said “sorry, it’s gonna be a no, hope you’re ok though”.
I know a lot of the problems were my fault, I could be very exhausting and anxious. But the way he dealt with it wasn’t great. Am I better off?