Should I tell DF?

[Dasher789]

DF and DM seperated 15 years ago and dont live close to each other. We all get together for Christmas and other family occasions and parents get on fine but they don't keep in touch. Since they split, parents have never spoken of other partners until now, DM has a new partner who has lived with her since earlier this year having met shortly before. Another family member is due to get married and both parents are invited as well as DM's new partner. As far as i am aware, no one has ever mentioned DM's new partner to my DF. None of my siblings nor I have met him so it would have felt odd and gossipy. I feel like someone should tell my DF before the wedding though.

Not sure if im making a mountain out of a mole hill.

1.do nothing its not my business.
2.tell DF myself.
3.ask DM to tell DF.

I would mention it. I couldn't imagine allowing someone love to be blindsided in anyway.

I would tell your Dad beforehand

If they've been separated for 15 years what makes you think that your DF a) cares that your DM has a partner and/or b) gets a say in whether the partner attends the wedding? I have to say if I'd been separated from someone for that long I'd assume they'd find someone else at some point. Is your concern because it's a new relationship?

@Player001 @antwacky thank you, these were my thoughts too but i didnt want to overstep. Il definitely tell him.

@MrsDanversRidesAgain i simply thought it was curtosy to inform as its new territory but i wanted others opinions as i havent been here before.

I would just casually drop it into conversation, like mention it in passing but don't focus on it. Don't make the whole conversation about that, he doesn't really need to be informed after 15years but that way at least he wouldn't be blindsided

I would tell him too. Of course he might not care, but he might and so it’s sensitive to give him a heads up just in case.