Hi, I need some input about a tricky problem.
I have gone NC with my mother. I did post on here about it a while ago but it may not have been under this username. Basically without going back into the whole torrid history of our relationship she’s verbally and emotionally abusive and always has been. I finally had enough a couple of months ago after another one of her outbursts and she’s been blocked ever since.
Anyway, my issue is that she borrowed a Dyson hot cold fan thing off me some time ago when her heating packed up, and due to me not needing it I’ve just never got round to getting it back. Now the autumn is coming on and fuel prices are going through the roof I need it back. It will be cheaper for me to heat a single room than put the heating on. I’m already struggling so really need to find as many ways to save money as possible.
I was going to ask my sister to get it for me but mother has now recruited her as a flying monkey, and although my sister is arm’s length with my mother, she’s reverted to how we were conditioned, making herself responsible for mother’s emotional well being and trying to bring me back into line.
I don’t have anyone else to fetch it for me so I’m going to have to do it myself. I’m not sure how to approach it as I know whatever I do my mother will try and ambush me either to have a go or to turn on the tears.
Any ideas or advice you could offer would be much appreciated. Thank you